Children who have social anxiety disorder typically have parents who chose not to acknowledge the problem. Many parents would rather ignore the issue than face it head up. Whether it is a stigma for the child who has it or whether it is a stigma for the parents, they decide that the problem will go away on its own. In actuality, the problem is bound to get worse.

It is being found that many more children are being diagnosed with this disorder and most being distinguished before their 10th birthday.

For children, symptoms are not totally specific and cannot be seen as well. In fact, children who have this disorder, they will be showing various signs that are seen with social anxiety disorder. Should you be concerned, there are several signs that need to be watched out for.

Signs That Parents Should Look For -

* Throwing tantrums
* Often crying
* Poor eye content
* Speaks softly or seldom talks
* Avoids going to school
* Wanting to be alone
* Anxiety attacks

With so many different ones, parents and children alike really need to keep a watchful eye out for those symptoms.

Once it has been diagnosed, parents can do many things that can help their child out. In many cases, parents will seek professional help in treatment options, choosing what is best for their child. However, there is a small catch. For children, there is no specific treatment plans that can be recommended by the physician. Depending on the type of social anxiety disorder the child is inflicted with and how the parents want to treat it, depends on how the child will get “well”.

In the beginning, parents will ask a professional’s help for the child’s treatment. The first approach is to try many different treatments without medication. Oddly enough, using simple socialization tactics can often times help the child more than if they were treated with medicine.

One tactic could be to place their child in a room full of people so they can be used to being in huge groups with a large stack of different activities. This is one way to get them kids to start socializing. If you put the child in a socialization structured situation with various activities, then it is the best shot to cure the social anxiety disorder without medicine.

However, if the parent has done everything possible without medication, it is time to talk to a professional and get their second opinion. In many cases of natural remedy failures, medication is recommended. Yet, this is not always the best case for the parents, the school and most of all, the student.

It does not matter how the family and child handles this disorder as long as the parents and child recognize there is a problem. Most of all, parents need to remember that there is always a reason for everything and that everything you do for your children is in there best interest so long as you are not in denial.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/mental-health-articles/social-anxiety-in-children-how-parents-can-help-their-child-709413.html

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I self-harmed about six times last year on my waist.
I have stopped, and haven’t done this for over a year now. I’m fourteen years old going on fiftheen and I finally have maturity to stand up and ask for help from a therapist. My parents are aware of this but are unaware that I self-harmed. I can’t stress the fact that I do not want my parents to know. I’m not comfortable and it would not help as i’m a closed person. I want to know will they tell my parents….

I don’t know what part of the world you are in, but most therapy offers "right to privacy". In fact, they are not allowed to give personal info to anyone about a client, unless the person threatens to harm someone. Even though you are a minor. When you see the therapist ask about your rights to privacy and ask what their policy is on disclosing your personal info. What goes on in your sessions should strictly remain private. Ask for a document stating this, ask them to sign it. They probably will have you sign that you read and received it. If they don’t provide that for you, find one who is ethical. You have the right to question this and you have the right to shop around. After all this is YOUR therapy for your problems. If there is a possibility that having your parents know will worsen things, good for you for standing up and saying so. and good for you for making the effort to better yourself.

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With the things that are out of your hands you’re suppose to give them up to God. Things you can handle should be taken care of with other helping aids that God has already put on this Earth.

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Last year I made approx 60k. My wife and I own (not outright, we’re paying on) our house and two rental properties, and we have 2 dependents. We have always gotten a hefty refund prior to my self-employment. Does anyone have a ballpark idea of what my tax liability should be?

15.3% self-employment tax
Income tax depends on how much you are paying in interest on the mortgage, but figure roughly 15% again.

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During childhood you can build eating patterns for the rest of your life. In the U.S., thirty percent of school aged children (5 to 18 year olds) are overweight. Adolescence is a time of building self esteem and craving acceptance and popularity from their peers. It is also a time of changing and growing bodies.

Children are bombarded with media representations of thin people just as much as adults are. It especially affects teenagers who want to be like the models they see on television or in magazines. Fad diets why they are bad is because children and teens are tempted to try them to reach an unattainable goal. They feel bad about themselves because of their appearance, especially if that is a value that is taught at home.

Parents can contribute to modeling diet behavior and sometimes it is not in a healthy way. Parents can also contribute to the childs self esteem. If your parents are telling you that you are fat and need to lose weight, the teen will feel bad about his or herself. If parents value good looks and thin bodies, their children are apt to value that to.

You have an overweight teen that desperately wants acceptance from his or her peers and wants to please their parents. Teens or children may go to extremes to lose weight because they feel bad about themselves. According to the Journal of Pediatrics, teens that read more fashion magazines then other teens were more likely to have unhealthy weight control behaviors five years later. Studies have also shown that teens who diet are more likely to be overweight five years later.

Kids may also get negative messages from peers, teachers or extended family members. This will lead the teen to diet so they can be accepted. This may cause the teen to drop his or her other interests and talents. If a teen is dieting, all of his or her energy may be focused on weight loss. This can be associated with the development of an eating disorder. Eating disorders can cause dehydration and electrolyte balance, weakness, distorted body image, decreased bone density, osteoporosis and death.

Teens may go to extremes to lose weight using diet pills, fasting or fad dieting. Children need to eat well to think clearly and keep there bodies functioning. Drastic dieting can cause metabolic and nutritional deficiencies. Dieting can become their focus in life, over their family, friends and activities.

Our society demands that children grow up fast these days. A teens body image is one of the core issues of their self esteem. Fad diets why they are bad is because the diet industry exploits the loss of self esteem in children and teens. Diet product manufactures do not care how old you are. If you are overweight there are many fad diets to choose from, overweight kids are especially vulnerable to the diet industry.

Children today do not get as much exercise as they used to unless they are involved in a sport at school. Many children today sit in from of the television playing video games and watching television. Joining a team sport at school will give the teen a sense of belonging, get them exercising and build their self esteem. Exercising will help them lose weight naturally.

Parents need to teach and model good eating habits. They should promote their childs self esteem by their grades or other activities and achievements. Kids who are obese can get help from a dietitian where they can learn healthy eating and exercise habits for their lifetime.

Garen Arnold
http://www.articlesbase.com/weight-loss-articles/fad-diets-and-teenagers-children-included-582626.html

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The 18th World Cup was enjoyable. Behind the Olympics, the FIFA World Cup is the second most universal event. The world unites every four year when the Olympics air, while the world divides every four years when the soccer World Cup airs.

It’s all about pride, glory, and bragging rights as nations compete in the most universal sport. It can be insulting when people from other countries brag about how their country’s team defeated yours! Pride and a love for sport has sparked me to write this as I saw my beloved Australian Socceroos bow out of the World Cup after their best ever result.

Since the World Cup started in 1930 at Uruguay, Australia qualified for the event in 1974 where they lost every match remaining goalless the entire event. Early in 2006, Australia’s streets were empty and there was silence through out the nation as they versed Uruguay for a place in the 2006 World Cup. We qualified for the second time in history after defeating Uruguay in a chair-gripping penalty shoot-out. The silence was shattered as every patriot, sport-loving Aussie, roared in happiness.

Tim Cahill broke Australia’s goalless World Cup history when he scored a double against Japan to lead his country to their first victory in the event. On top of the world, the Socceroos versed Brazil and were defeated 0-2 in what well known sport commentators referred to as a match Australia outplayed the number one soccer nation. After drawing with Croatia and moving into the second round of the World Cup, Australia faced soccer giants Italy.

The second round match kicked off and remained goalless for 92 minutes. In the 92nd minute and 50th second, with 10 seconds remaining in the game, Italian Fabio Grosso dribbled the ball into the penalty box. Australian Lucas Neill went to the ground as he tried to tackle the Italian, but a second later Fabio tripped (or FELL!) over the Australian defender. The referee, who shall remain nameless to preserve what little safety he has left, awarded the free kick. Francesco Totti then made a lovely penalty shot to qualify Italy into the quarter-finals and to remove every Australian’s dream of a World Cup quarter-final birth.

So why have I lectured you on a nation’s soccer history you probably don’t care at all about?

A few days after experiencing my nation’s dramatic soccer loss, I felt hopeless, empty, with a tonne of frustration and anger. I take my international sporting events seriously.

I know I’m being overly expressive about it all, but there are vital life lessons that you need to learn. I was aware of these lessons before experiencing my ’soccer outburst’ but everyone needs to be frequently reminded of them.

Life, or soccer in my case, gets the better of us most of the time. We let past experiences attach onto our backs and into our minds pulling our current actions and thoughts backwards. Our past experiences hold us back.

What I’m talking about is ‘letting go’ or ‘moving on’.

It is often either a control issue: something bad happened that negatively affects your life and you desire to influence it. You live in a false sense of hope and control wishing or thinking you could have changed the problem.
Or
It is problem focused: the problem persists in your mind causing lingering pain simply because you focus on the problem and it remains until you are able to let it go and move on.

My beloved Socceroos would have faced the control issue. In the last 10 seconds in what has taken over 76 years to happen, a harsh call was made and they were removed from the competition. 39 972 106 minutes had passed since the first World Cup and the last 10 seconds determined the end result. The last 10 seconds! I’d calculated the time since the first World Cup to the penalty shoot because this is essentially the opportunity the Socceroos have had for World Cup success.

Whether the call was right or not is beyond my point here. It is a harsh world. I couldn’t agree more with “the worst thing, will happen at the worst time”. The Socceroos, namely Lucas Neill, would be asking themselves “what if… what if this happened? What if another referee was in the game? What if I had done this?” I guarantee they would have been living in a false sense of control thinking about what they could have done to prevent the loss from occurring by not letting go of history. They are after all, only humans.

I on the other hand, was problem focused. The Socceroos had a superb World Cup and gained the respect as a soccer nation. But no! I complained and whinged for days, unable to move on. Argh! The game was 0-0 until the last 10 seconds! You can learn not only from my focus on the bad result, but also the pain I endured because I did not let go of the past.

Even if you think it’s funny because I take the World Cup seriously, try and relate to how you dwell on bad results and don’t let go of the past.

There’s no way Australia is going into the quarter-finals so why have a little sulk about it? Remember the saying “there’s no point crying over spilt milk”? I’m sure you would have heard of the saying before but we let our emotions overpower our logic, dominating our commonsense that history cannot be changed. Heck, I know this well and truly yet Australia bowing out of the World Cup infuriated me for days. We all need to be frequently reminded that history is exactly history. Nothing can be done about the past.

What you do need to take from the past is the lessons you learn. It would be foolish to make a mistake, endure the pain, and learn nothing from it to prevent the same problem from occurring again. I’m sure the Socceroos and all other soccer nations have learned from their World Cup experience.

What you don’t need is to take the past with you by not letting go. An examples is not forgiving someone for the pain they’ve caused you. You are willing to cling onto the unhappiness and pain of a past problem by not forgiving the person that hurt you.

You live in truth and happiness by accepting what you can currently control through living in the present and letting go of the past. Nothing good happens with an unhealthy bondage to past negative events.

It’s time to let go of the past that’s been holding you back from living a full and happy life. Don’t be afraid or lazy to comeback and read this as you’re guaranteed to let your emotions dominate your logic and let the past control your happiness again and again. Let go of the past and live in happiness.

I’m now happy for Italy and congratulate them in qualifying for the quarter-finals. The worst possible call from an Aussie’s point of view was made at the worst time. The Socceroos didn’t make it and I accept that. Well done Italy.

Joshua Uebergang
http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/the-world-cup-and-learning-to-let-go-for-happiness-59785.html

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When a person suffers from anxiety attacks, it can be quite frustrating for the sufferer to contend with. It can interrupt the day to day life of the person dealing with the anxiety.

For many people, it is not just one issue or dilemma that causes the anxiety attack but rather a culmination of things. By finding out what causes the disorder, it can help the person in the quest to regaining control of one self as well as decreasing the amount of attacks that occur. Like previously stated, the attacks come about from many different reasons, situations and objects.

During one time or another, each and every person finds themselves in an uncomfortable and stressed induced, anxiety-filled situation. From being afraid of speaking in front of people, doing a job interview or just meeting people for the first time, it all adds up to people suffering an anxiety attack.

When a person begins to suffer the symptoms of the attack in the psychological standpoint, physical ones also tend to appear from the intensified anxiety level. If the person can pinpoint what are the causes behind their suffering, they can find ways avoid the situations. But facing the problem or problems head on is better than running away from it.

Three Causes Behind Anxiety Attacks

- Social Anxiety
- Objects
- Pre Situation Anxiety

Social anxiety occurs when a person meets someone new or is approached by someone they do not know. Most of the fear stems from being made fun of or saying the wrong thing or also being thought of negative light. When speaking in front of a group of people, it sometimes is impossible for a person with anxiety disorder to not feel as if they will not mess up, leading up to the attack.

Another cause behind the attacks are objects. Bridges in particular can be quite stimulating for people afraid of them. Hearing negative items about a bridge including one such incident as in the Minnesota Bridge Collapse. The I-35W corridor collapsed during one of the 2007 rush hour traffic while it was being worked on. The tragedy killed several people but injured scores more.

Working to get over anxiety attacks around objects is not a feat that goes unbeaten… it is just a bit harder to work with. Working with a therapist will make getting “over” or complacent a bit easier for the sufferer. The therapist will come up with several plans for the sufferer to use.

For those things that have not happened yet, getting scared beforehand is rather common. A stressful job interview that everything in your household is riding on to get. A doctor’s appointment where the doctor suggests the sufferers comes in to get the results. Anxiety of a child’s impending graduation. All this can lead up to an attack. The cause behind these attacks have something to do with the way ther brain processes information.

A therapist will help the sufferer in changing the way theyy think and find techniques to help them cope with situations that have not happened yet. When using the effective skills learned, it is possible to change the mind’s way of thought.

Should you experience an attack but don’t know why, speaking with a therapist can narrow down possible causes. The therapist can recommend techniques to use in every situation and may even recommend medication if the attacks warrant it.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/mental-health-articles/anxiety-attack-causes-what-really-lies-behind-the-disorder-709407.html

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